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Sun, Feb. 10th, 2013, 01:35 pm
tgrapp: Problems with going to bed.

My son, 3.3, recently realized that he can easily jump out of his bed, in which he has slept since he was a baby. Nothing helps. He just runs out of his room with an impish laugh. In order for him to go to sleep, I have to lock myself with him in our bedroom. He can go on like an energizer bunny till 12am. It's been more than two weeks. He gets, together with the day sleep at daycare, 8hrs sleep on average

At first I thought it's a stage. Like a power surge - realizing that he's big and can do whatever he wants. I thought it will pass. It hasn't. I've tried hot bathes, massages, tea with chamomile and verbena, and even kid drops with Valerian root and passion fruit. None of that helps. 

He doesn't really talk, but he seems to understand a lot. He has just started using PECS. I can't seem to find a way to explain to him, that nighttime means he has to go to bed. Has someone here succeeded to do that with a kid on a spectrum? What words, pictures, movies, etc have you used? Maybe there are good ABA methods or ideas for that?

Looking forward to sleeping ))
Thanks

Mon, Feb. 11th, 2013 05:09 am (UTC)
daria5324

With ABA, you would reward him with something he really likes when he goes to bed, in his own bed (without getting out) when you say so. For example, if he goes to bed nicely, in the morning he can play with "X" toy. "X" toy can only be played with if he goes to bed correctly. Trick is you have to make sure it's VERY clear why he is getting the reward and give it to him right away in the morning. Be sure to never take it away for other reasons, you want to reward positive behavior, not punish negative behavior.

You can even make him a chart but since he's so young, it'll probably be way too much for him to understand.

Mon, Feb. 11th, 2013 06:52 pm (UTC)
cintachakra

To add to this, I would take the time he is in bed, and reward him for that time gradually increasing- maybe by 15 min every couple of days. Sounds slow going (and it maybe possible to do it faster than that), but you want to set up something like that to be successful.
I saw something on Pinterest for a kid using a red light/green light. Red light meaning stay in bed and green light meaning it is ok to get up.
Good luck!

Tue, Feb. 12th, 2013 10:13 am (UTC)
tgrapp

this is definitely food for thought, thank you.

Tue, Feb. 12th, 2013 06:13 am (UTC)
tgrapp

i don't think he can connect yet reward in the morning to the evening before.... I need some kind of immediate thing.

Tue, Feb. 12th, 2013 08:32 am (UTC)
daria5324

Then definitely go with something immediate if you feel like it will work :) Do whatever you think is right, just remember to keep rewarding the good behavior!

Tue, Feb. 12th, 2013 10:10 am (UTC)
tgrapp

thanks!